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Breaking Free from the Cycle of Never Feeling "Enough"

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In a world where our achievements are often considered more important than our inner peace, many of us struggle with feeling that we're never quite "enough." It’s a deep-seated belief that can stem from myriad sources: the pressures society puts on us,, past traumas, family, school, or even self-imposed expectations. The continuous chase to do, be, and have more that a feeling of “not enoughness'  instigates can also leave you in a perpetual state of dissatisfaction, confuse your understanding of what truly matters, and diminish our ability to experience joy and enjoy life.

Understanding the Challenges of "Enoughness"

Feeling perpetually inadequate is akin to running a marathon with no finish line in sight. It manifests as a relentless pursuit of more—more success, more possessions, more accolades—and leaves you feeling exhausted, resentful, and unfulfilled. As Brené Brown wisely puts it, "What we know matters but who we are matters more." It’s a reminder and a call to shift your focus from looking outside of yourself for validation, to looking compassionately within for self-acceptance, inherent value, and peace.

Strategies to Overcome the Scarcity Mindset

Breaking the cycle of feeling like you’re never "enough" involves a conscious and effortful shift in mindset and habits. Here are some transformative steps inspired by the principles of Ikigai—the Japanese concept that emphasizes finding joy and fulfillment in life through purpose:

  1. Identify Your Values and Passions: Reflect on what truly matters to you. What are your core values? What activities get you into a state of ‘flow’ where you lose track of time? Living in alignment with these principles as your guiding lights can gradually shift your focus from what you lack to what really matters to you, and what you can passionately contribute to your world or even the greater world..

  2. Practice Gratitude: Start a gratitude journal be it written or spoken (even in your head). Daily entries about what you are thankful for can significantly alter your perception, helping you see abundance rather than scarcity. This practice can nurture a healthier relationship with yourself and your accomplishments.

  3. Set Realistic Goals: Instead of lofty goals that are misaligned with your core self, set achievable, realistic objectives that foster a sense of accomplishment and progress. Celebrate small victories to build confidence and a genuine sense of self-worth.

  4. Consume mindfully: In a culture of constant consumption, choose to consume content and products that uplift and support your wellbeing. This reduces the compulsion to compare and despair, which is often exacerbated by social media and advertising.

The Liberating Joy of Embracing Enoughness

When you begin to detach your worth from outside achievements and start nurturing your inner self, a profound transformation occurs. You experience freedom—the freedom to be imperfect, to enjoy the present moment, and to prioritize your wellbeing over societal expectations. This liberation opens up space for joy, creativity, and peace. As Maya Angelou once said, "Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it." This to me is the true essence of feeling "enough."

In Conclusion

Are you struggling with feelings of never being enough? Are these thoughts getting in the way of your happiness and preventing you from living a meaningful and fulfilling life? If so, it's time to explore new pathways out of this cycle. Reach out to discover how you can transcend these limiting beliefs and start on a journey towards embracing your true self, utilizing tools like my 3Cs Framework, principles of Ikigai, and my NLP Model of ‘Enoughness’ to guide you. Together, we can plan a future where you feel abundant, accomplished, and authentically "enough." Let's chat about how we can tailor a coaching plan that resonates with your deepest desires.

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